Happy Father's Day!

I'm wishing all the fathers out there a Happy Father's Day! It takes real men to rear and prepare their children for the world. So thanks for blazing the trail, being stern and loving unconditionally. Especially my daddy. He is strong, extremely funny, loving, hard, and at times stubborn but most importantly, HE IS ALWAYS THERE. His presence is what made the difference in me and my siblings lives.
Happy Father's Day Fluffy!

New Jill Scott & Anthony Hamilton- So In Love

This is the new single from the talented Jill Scott. Listening to it makes me want to smile and dance with my imaginary boo. (lol) This is summer music baby. Her new album drops June 21st. ENJOY!!

Day 2 of the 31 Day Challenge

Day 2
This my second post and I must say I had trouble actually sitting down and doing this activity.

What Do I Love? What Do I Hate?
Lifestyle;
I love that I don’t have to pay bills/rent.
I love the people I live with.
I love the love that I feel when I get home.
I hate the limited privacy
I hate the dependence I feel is being built on both sides
I hate that I don’t do much with my leisure time.
Work;
I love that I have found part my calling.
I love that my manager is so wise and giving
I hate the lack of communication
I hate the bureaucracy and red tape.
I hate the lack of room for advancement
Education;
I love that I have started college and have finally made the decision to go back and finish undergrad and beyond.
I love that I have people who support my endeavors
I love that I have strong opinions
I hate that I feel others in my age group are passing me by
I hate that I feel some who should believe in me are thinking to practically and unknowingly stifling my dreams
Finances;
I love that I have a steady income with the promise of more
I love that I do know financial empowerment (even if I have yet to implement that knowledge)
I hate that I cannot manage my finances.
I hate that I have credit/debt issues
I hate that I feel if I don’t get it together I will pass these bad habits on.
Health;
I love that I have a strong body
I love that I have a stronger mental health
I love that my soul is healthier
I love that I have taken a more proactive role
I hate that I have looming health issues
I hate that I am not as proactive as I should be
I hate that I am not a spiritual as I once was
I hate that I am wasting a gym membership
Family;
I love that my family communicates
I love how strong we are
I love how I know they’ll always be there
I love that we are family
I hate that we sometimes aren’t completely truthful with each other
I hate that we can be so judgmental
I hate that we haven’t healed from a death
Relationships:
I love my friends
I love (most) of the romantic experiences I have had
I love that I have learned how to function singularly I hate that I am not as close to some as I am to others
I hate that I haven’t been in a serious relationship
I hate that I seem to fall in the friend/comfort zone

31 Day Challenge

I mentioned in previous posts that I want to change myself for the better and what fell into my lap? The 31 Day Challenge to Reset Your Life. SO of course I signed up. I will be posting(attempting to granted they aren't extremely personal,) the daily activities/exercises to track my progress. I'm excited. If you're interested I will post the link to site below under my Day 1 entry.

Day 1-
This is my first day in the 31 day challenge and I have decided to post both on my personal blog and in a physical notebook. I am flirting with 2 different mantras. I may use both. 1) “Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.” 2)”I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence.” -Frederick Douglass

I look forward to this process. I’ve been looking for a change and just didn’t know how to go about it.

http://happyblackwoman.com/join-the-31-days-to-reset-your-life-challenge-june-2011-edition

Dark Girls

This is a topic that is deeply rooted in the African/American community and has been discussed by other races. The topic is the beauty or disdain of sisters of a darker hue. There is a documentary coming out that is bringing this topic to the forefront. It speaks of the ugly names, hurt feelings,emotional despair, stereotypes, and ultimately the beauty of my sisters. Following is a preview/trailer of the Bill Duke production "Dark Girls". Hopefully, this film forces to stop talking down to each other and open the lines of communication to help us heal and to share and celebrate our beauty with our future generations of every race. We are ALL BEAUTIFUL.

Bob Marley Tribute

It's been 30 years since the passing of the face of reggae music passed away. As a music connoisseur I love good music and sugar if you don't know, THIS is good music in it's purest form. This just makes me smile and is getting me pumped for Black Music Month in June. SO without further adieu here's is the esteemed Bob Marley. RIP sir. Your legend lives on.

National Library Week!

So it's National Library Week and I know you're thinking "Already?! I love that place" I know right, it seems like it was just yesterday. Lol. I am a bookworm and a library employee so this week is kind of cool. What makes it even better is that a friend sent me a lovely article from npr.org celebrating the relevance and splendor that are the public library. SO without further adieu here's the article. The article is Linda Holmes. Happy reading everyone!

"There's a big public library literally across the street from my bank and the supermarket where I most frequently pick up stuff like milk and paper towels. Across the street. As in: first I buy Diet Coke, then I dodge one SUV careening around the corner, and I'm there.

And yet, until this weekend, I'd never been in it and I had no library card.

I know.

I've talked a bunch of times about the economics of e-book purchasing and paper book purchasing, about my love of paperback romance novels, and about how unattached I am to book ownership and the growth of my personal library, and somehow, I never crossed the street.

After finally heading over to get signed up and then leaving on Saturday with the odd sense I tweeted about that they had let me walk out with six books and three DVDs for nothing and I felt like I'd committed a heist, I gave this some thought. Why, when there's such bitter frustration over pricing of all the things people actually buy, is library borrowing often only faintly heard about in noisy, angry discussions you can so often hear about "How do I stop getting broken on the rack by publishers of various kinds?" What kinds of hesitations stop this from happening?

(Note: I know that for some of you, you've always been library hounds; I salute you. Don't feel marginalized. I'm speaking of those — whose numbers are strangely large — who, like me, just kinda ... stopped thinking about public libraries at some point.)


Do they have what I want? Obviously, one of the issues is always going to be selection. I think when I envision libraries, I think about ... encyclopedias? Children's books? History? It's not that I don't know that they have new books and popular fiction, though you often don't see that stuff on display because it's out with lengthy waiting lists. But somehow, I don't think of the library as possessing the same books I buy for myself. I see it the way I saw it when I was a kid. I see it the way I saw it when I assumed that all books that didn't have pictures in them were dry and important. I have always associated the library with school and homework and (the horror) being quiet, not necessarily with fun.

But on Saturday, I grabbed David Foster Wallace's Infinite Jest, which I checked out because (1) I've never read it; (2) I may not talk myself into it or be able to finish it and I definitely don't want it in my house staring judgmentally at me if I don't; (3) I want to give it a try; and (4) it wouldn't work as a Kindle book anyway because of the footnotes. Taking it out of the library is basically the only model under which I'm likely to try that particular book.

I also found the last three books in a highly frivolous Nora Roberts romance series (oh, settle down) from which I'd already read the first. They'd cost $12.99 each if I bought them electronically. That's forty bucks to read three more books that are ... all very much the same book as the first book, but I kind of wanted to read them, because ... whatever, it was the weekend. It's relaxing. It's a series. Don't judge.

Anyway, borrowing them long enough to read them (which takes, in total, maybe twelve hours for all three) cost me ... nothing out of pocket.

So let's review: E-book pricing versus paperback pricing versus zero dollars (beyond what I pay in taxes to support the library, which I'm paying anyway) — for the rest of the set. It was not a very difficult question.

I also picked up the Tom Shales history of Saturday Night Live, which I'm pretty sure I've read, or at least looked over, but there it was, and why not? I also love the gigantic tomes about etiquette that Judith Martin (that's Miss Manners to you) writes — she's hilarious and smart — and they had one of those, so I picked it up. That's six books that I genuinely wanted to read, at least three of which I probably would have blown money buying and then felt bad about.

What condition is the stuff in? The same romance about physical books that leads some people to inhale of the pages as if they're breathing in knowledge itself leads some of those same people not to like books that are beat-up. And make no mistake: In my public library, I found many beat-up books.

In particular, I found that all those cheap romance paperbacks were beaten, mangled, shaken and stirred. Not so that you couldn't read them, but just so you knew they'd been read a lot. Oddly, I found this ... comforting. I picked up some of those horribly abused books and felt like I was putting my hands on tangible populism. Those books are there because they're read, and it actually made kind of a good reminder that the library was trying to help, that the idea was to serve readers. Whether you like genre fiction or not, the people who read it read books and support libraries and bookstores, and the proof is right there in all those spines that are half-unreadable because they're creased in so many places.

(Oh, and one other thing: If you read romance novels from the library, you will learn that while you might not fold down the pages to mark the ... well, the more risque sections, some people do. I found this, again, delightful. You naughty people who live in my county.)

In short, you are indeed dealing with shared books, and they feel like shared books. It's not the same feeling as owning a book yourself and filling it exclusively with your own marginalia and placing your bookplate in it, but it has its own charms.

What do I do if the selection doesn't turn out to be so great locally? Consider for a moment our new I Will If You Will Book Club selection, Neil Gaiman's The Sandman: Dream Country, which we'll get started on this week. As it happens, when I look it up in the online catalog, there are no copies at my branch. (Four copies across my library system are checked out; I dearly hope they are all to IWIYW readers.) But there are other copies at other branches, and right from my desk, I can ask my branch to get me one, and I can pick it up there. In other words "Dear Building Near Me: I want to read this book, and they have it at Building Not Near Me. Could you ask them to send it over, and then I'll pick it up on this particular day? Sincerely, Lazy N. Frugal." To which my library will say, electronically, "Dear Lazy: No problem! We look forward to seeing you."

So in other words, depending on your system, there's an excellent chance that the selection is bigger than you think it is.

Do I have to run back and forth all the time? The lending period at my library, for most stuff, is three weeks. And most things can be renewed online, up to a point. I mean ... they're trying to make it easy on you, they really are.

Were you embarrassed when they saw you checking out romance novels? If it's been a while since you visited your library, you may be surprised to learn that many of them have automatic checkout with scanners, just like at the grocery store, so you don't have to show your books to anyone if you don't want to. Nora Roberts was my little secret. Well, not so much now, but you know.

Do they have anything for me if I'm not so much a reader? I know you probably know that your library has DVDs. But somehow, in my mind, I envisioned a measly little table, like at a garage sale in the late '90s, with a few scattered, beat-up DVDs on it, all of which would be selected from the great list of ... things I don't care about.

To my surprise, they have a nice fat shelf of movies. I was recently reading Wil Wheaton's beautiful piece about reuniting with the cast of Stand By Me and remembering River Phoenix, so when I saw Stand By Me on the shelf, I took that. I then realized that the documentaries (I love documentaries) were shelved with the books (weird, but understandable), so I went into the stacks again. There, I found Ken Burns' Baseball and — oh, joy — the fantastic King Of Kong: A Fistful Of Quarters, a movie that I recently discovered, to my dismay, is not streaming on Netflix anymore, and which I hadn't seen in a couple of years.

So there you have it: three movies and six books, all very much from the universe of stuff we talk about here on the blog anyway. No research papers, no homework, no garage-sale cast-offs. I was really surprised, at some level, when the detectors at the door didn't go off, even though I intellectually knew they wouldn't.

What say you to e-readers and audiobook lovers? I'm glad you asked.

I may have misspoken when I said on Saturday that my library had e-books I could read on my phone. It's not clear to me yet (watch the drama unfold in the comments!) whether I can actually do that. BUT! Some other readers can read them, and I can read on a PC, which isn't as bad a way to read as I used to think it was. (This is actually how I first discovered e-books, was reading on my PC before I owned a Kindle.) The e-book situation with libraries is in flux, you could say, as Lynn Neary recently reported. But it's not because your local library isn't trying.

As for audiobooks, my library has those, too, and as with e-books, you can download them from your computer without even going to the library. You could actually be a thriving, happy library user without ever setting foot in my particular public library. The library is hermit-friendly!

Is that it? It's ... not remotely. They had magazines, they did have encyclopedias and research materials, obviously, and basically, if you have a small child, they will do everything short of holding your kid by his feet and dipping him in fonts of wisdom. There's story time, there are tutoring rooms (which were in use when I was there), there's a book club (they're reading As I Lay Dying at the moment), and OH RIGHT, it's staffed with people who clearly would really like it if you came up and asked them questions about books or anything else.

The point I'm trying to make is that as a pop-culture-adjacent person, you may think that public libraries are not particularly relevant to you. But I felt like since we've talked about movie pricing, e-book pricing, and a lot of other business models, it was only fair to bring to your attention my experience with this bizarre business model that's so crazy it just might work.

[Note: It is a complete coincidence, you have my word, that I just figured out it's National Library Week. My finger purely accidentally landed on the pulse of library news.]"

So to all my fellow library employees, and librarians you are appreciated and what we do is STILL important!