Sesame Street has done it again

Never let be said that Sesame Street stops reaching people once they leave kindergarten. This chocolate colored puppet is back to show that she can be whoever she wants to  be. Great message for kids, even better for some of us adults who from time to time may feel down on ourselves and our occupational outlook.

Yeah I write poetry sometimes...

Here's the deal. I like to express my feelings, thoughts,and opinions. Sometimes in the form of poetry, but I rarely let people see or even know that I do so. I don't like people assuming that just because I rock a FIERCE natural and enjoy Neo-soul, and brown rice that I participate in poetry slams. I don't, I won't say I never will but I don't as of today. ANYWAY, I'm feeling courageous so I am going to share my latest piece with you. If you don't like it I do not want to know. What can I say? I'm sensitive.

Jezzie’s Lament

You know what I hear time and time again? “Jessiree, why do you treat these guys that way? You act as if you’ve got ice water coursing through your veins” No sugar, not true. No ice in my heart or veins, I just refuse to be driven insane by these “too cool for school” types guys, these “hit and never think of you again” type guys, these” baby you’re just too good for me that’s why we could never be” type guys. Save it for someone who doesn’t know any better. I understand we all have to take our lumps in the pursuit of finding our happily ever afters, but I decided to take fewer and yield the same results. I decided to be proactive in my interactions with men. If you don’t call, don’t expect me to.  Baby I’m not sorry to report that I won’t be chasing you. Not by text, missed calls, tweets or wall posts. If you don’t recognize the real when you see it there’s nothing I can do to make you believe it. When I show interest and it is returned with a blank stare, I switch gears. I’m not the type to stay around to see how long it takes you to care.  So when we finally do reconnect, if it seems like I’m surrounded by an air of nonchalance, it’s because I am. .” I don’t want to hear how much you’ve missed me, because my response will simply be “Awww, that’s sweet.” That’s the God’s honest truth .I won’t allow myself to give a damn about man who doesn’t know how true, pure, and good I am.  You won’t get the chance to squeeze this Charmin, darling. I may not be perfect, but I’m perfect for somebody. It may not be you and that’s cool, no hard feelings boo. I just don’t want you to lie to me, cause I won’t lie to you. I don’t want to be your “kick it girl”, you know the one you call when you have that itch that needs to be scratched. You can miss me with all that.  I want to be in love and be booed up all year long. I’m better than a midnight booty call. You have to admit that we’re both getting to old for that type of behavior. I’m a grown woman and like you I demand love and respect and if you can’t handle that then it’s “on to the next, on, on to the next one.”  If you want to play then I can too. It’s just game that we both may lose. I’m no loser, I play to win and in this game of hearts we can both be victorious if you just grow up and let me in. 

That's why I love T.I.

TI, TIP, KING, Clifford Harris. Whatever you choose to call him, you know his name. Whether you know him for his rapping, acting, arrests, community service or life saving tactics (see here) you have to respect him. Well, you don't have to but I do. There is something about that man that no matter what he does I can't stay mad at him. Guns, fighting, drugs, jail. I CANNOT. Maybe because I feel like I know him. He's like the protagonist of real life if real life was an epic saga (think Gilgmesh) . He has tragic flaws but he's a good guy. Case and point, this past weekend at an after party for the BET Hip Hop awards alongside the music, dancing and reverie. There was alcohol, celebrities, common folk and CELEBRITY EGOS. Namely Diddy's. Some guys decided to be different and drink Grey Goose and not Ciroc. Little did they know, that them using their free will would cause Diddy to berate them. In comes TI. Passionate, level headed and full of common sense to diffuse the situation. I definitely love and appreciate him for who and what he is. Okay enough my Stan feelings about TI, lol. Watch the clip below to see how it all unfolds. Afterwards cue the Be Easy track.

I AM TROY DAVIS

TROY ANTHONY DAVIS

11:08 EST is a time that will be forever in our memories. Tonight at 11:08 another black man was killed by the American Government. His name was Troy Davis. I had to go and do my research on this case so I could be informed.  He allegedly killed an off-duty police officer 22yrs ago. He maintained his innocence until his last breath. Sadly, the justice system didn't, believe him even though 7 of the 9 witnesses recanted their statements. This is bone chilling. I am not for the death penalty. Killing one person will not bring your loved one back to life. America needs to really rethink the justice system and our value on human life. America is in a sensitive place politically, and racially. This could be the blow to our collective psyche and soul that causes an uprising. We as a people need to be proactive and more involved in politics or things like this will continue to happen. The way the government is this could easily be one of my brothers, my father, my uncles. Whether you believe or not, my brother IS your brother, my father YOUR father,etc. We are all connected. Seriously, I am hurt over this. We have to do something about these type of incidents. This is far from okay. I hope this serves as a wake up call to us all. I pray for both the MacPhail and Davis families. I pray for us all. Death benefits no one. This is NOT justice.
Rest In Peace TROY DAVIS.

Dumbing your standards down only hurts YOU

Despite what various news broadcasts, articles, blogs, and random people say there are good quality men (women) out here willing and ready to date you. The problem with feeding into the hysteria (believing the hype) is that a lot of women (men) are settling and dumbing themselves down for their partners. The philosophy seems to be "I'd rather have ANYBODY than NOBODY."  Let me be the voice of reason here, that won't work. Why are you selling yourself short?! I'm no dating guru, (I'm trying to figure it out just like you) but I've come across my fair share of males and various types of relationships to know a few things. From my few years in the dating game I can assure you that settling will leave you holding a pound of pissed off. You're not doing yourself any kind of serving hanging on to him (her). Who wants to go through life unhappy just so you can say "I got a man (woman)." You don't have a relationship, what you have is issues. He's (she's) thinking they've won the jackpot because not only are attractive,smart, and gainfully employed you don't seem to mind that they aren't. They are probably your opposite and not the type of complimentary opposite either. They're cute though and a warm body beats a cold bead and lonely Friday nights right? Right? WRONG. You deserve more. You can do better. You can have what you seek in mate. You can have a person who compliments you on every level, not someone who isn't just good for between the sheets activities. Furthermore settling is a mistake, I'll even go as far to say it's reckless endangerment. Big words to use I know. It's that serious though. Reckless because you know crazy, ill-conceived things happen when people aren't where they're supposed to be. For example we get  unplanned pregnancies. Not the kind that works out well for all involved either, we get the ones  laced with baby mama/daddy drama. We get restraining orders, busted out windows, flattened tires, etc. Most importantly we get hurt people who may in turn hurt someone else because of the previous foolishness. This is not an easy task, I know. It is possible though. Do yourself and us a favor and wait for the right one or be with no one. It's not worth the drama and heartache. Lupe Fiasco said it best "Bishop G, they told me I should come down cousin, but I flatly refuse I ain't dumb down nothing" This is what I try to live by because I would rather be by myself than wasting time and energy on a situation that doesn't deserve it. If I were you I'd do the same. 
 I wish you happy dating and sanity.


Jezzie
 

Not Here Anymore- Phonte ft Elzhi

You all should know me by now. I am a music lover. So in my effort to keep great music pumping through your speakers and veins here's a new track from Phonte ft Elzhi produced by 9th Wonder. Pay attention and let this music move you. For all fans Phonte's albums drops on Sept 27 and for all my STL folk he will be in town Nov 14. Enough of me, here's the new hotness. "Not Here Anymore"

You Are Ruining My Life...Dating wise that is

DISCLAIMER: This post is not to for the WOMEN who are handling their business and are jointly raising their child(ren) with the father. This post is about the ones who are constantly causing me strife.
Wale said it best, “Favorite girlfriends turn into crazy baby mothers.”
I need to vent, my dating life is suffering and I do not appreciate it. I know this won’t change the behavior, but I needed to get that off my chest. It would end if folk would make better decisions about who they bed. Accidents happen, I know but with the number of CBMs running around, this is an epidemic. I understand that you two share a bond, I would never try to change that, but there are rules. Let me be clear. I would prefer and am constantly in search of the smart, attractive, employed, CHILDLESS brother. I do understand that the older I become the smaller my chances are. So until I meet him I'm seizing opportunities. I can handle you having one kid, two maybe but what I can't and won't deal with is the drama that comes with it. Fuck that, I'm a good woman, a problem solver, I add to not subtract from my guy's life. These men have slipped up and slipped in raw and now are like "WTF?! Why is she acting like this?" They can't get with a winner because she's playing defense like the 2000 Baltimore Ravens! For example, I work with the public so I meet my fair share of men. Some worth my time, most not. Today was a day where I met one that would have definitely been worth my time. I saw him before he reached my desk. He was an attractive, beautiful dark skinned, nice smile having, educated man with a nice personality. He came in and I was assisting him for a short while and him and his brother made a computer appointment for later. He comes back and has brought me lunch. Yes, lunch. Nice right? I thought so too. After speaking with him for a bit and affirming that our chemistry was on point, I took the reins and asked if he was single. His response "It's complicated, I have a son. His mother is CRAZY; we just got into on the phone. We aren't together, but I wouldn't want to drag this drama into your life." Not what I wanted to hear and I told Dark & Lovely just that. He said "I know, it sucks because I enjoy talking with you." Damn, another one bites the dust. I don't know who's more to blame? The man, because I'm sure she's been off, he just looked over it and now she's full blown nuts or her for not realizing that some relationships don't last and this baby won't make him stay. I want these CBMs to mature and realize that you and his romantic relationship is over. Move on so both of you can find happiness. I don't have children but I do know they require loads of attention. But I'm willing to wager that your child doesn't need anything at 11 pm when your former flame and his date or he and his new girl are out on the date that you knew was scheduled. That's just childish. You both deserve happiness and your antics are holding you back. I dedicate this to my fellow single, childless sisters who just want a chance with this man and can't get one because you, the CBM can't cope. You CBMs are making dating hard as hell. Imagine yourself in our positions. Not a pretty picture right? You see how it can cause us to slip up and call you out of your name. I don’t play second fiddle to other grown women just because they have attachment issues. I replace not chase. I don’t want to count out all the men who have children but they way some of you chicks are acting it is hard not to. I know that there are some great guys that have children but we won’t give them a chance because of the drama you all are hell bent on keeping up. Your games are childish, and they are causing more issues. Nothing is getting solved. You keep it up, and your child(ren) are going to suffer. It’s not about you anymore. Hell, as much as I like dating and meeting new men, it’s not even about me and the abuse my dating life is taking. It’s about that child. Get it together. All I ask is that you know your role and play your part and we'll be cool. I hope you all realize this soon, because this mess is ridiculous. I am wasting too much time dealing with you and your drama.